Lifestyle | Lauren and Cameron’s “Love is Blind” Spin Off

Film, Lifestyle, Relationships

Lauren and Cameron’s whirlwind romance was a true favorite among the couples on Netflix’s three week event Love is Blind. Lauren and Cameron hit it off instantly, getting in to some deep conversations, opening up their eyes to emotions they didn’t even know they had. Their personalities and desire to find true love matched and after five short days of laughter and even some tears, Cameron proposed to Lauren. But here’s the kicker, they hadn’t even seen each other in person yet. 

After a quick getaway trip to mexico and some time in a new apartment, coordinating their lives to see what it could be like living together as husband and wife, the couple tied the knot. 

The series has been number 1 on Netflix for the past week with fans all over the world however Lauren and Cameron’s experience was definitely a crowd favorite especially among black viewers. 

Actress, singer and social media babe @thejessiewoo was rooting for Lauren and Cameron’s union.

Some fans like @shadesofsoso even went all out getting dressed up and ready for the Love is Blind wedding.

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Instagram and Twitter fans are already calling for a Lauren and Cameron show! Who wouldn’t want to see this right? The couple is practically the American Meghan and Harry! 

As Lauren so rightly said in her Instagram live stream, “America’s audiences needed this.” We needed to see unfiltered, unscripted real life footage of how beautiful love can be without all the over the top drama. With most reality shows about love and relationships portraying black women as angry, aggressive or just plain gold diggers, Netflix did a wonderful job with this series making it feel the most authentic and relatable reality series yet. Now all Netflix needs to do is to start filming Lauren and Cameron’s spin off! 


Love on the Brain | Holdin’ It Down Like a Ride or Die

Lifestyle, Relationships

If you’ve been exploring the dating world for some time now you’d know that most women usually tend to be attracted to men who keep them intrigued. Boring is never ideal! For the most part, it’s less likely ever about how he makes her feel, but more so about how she feels about him. Regardless of who he is, where he’s been or what he’s done, a woman’s desire always lies wherever or with whoever her energy is drawn to.  When they say women never really know what they want, that isn’t quite true, we innately know exactly what or who we want, but we rarely ever know how to express it.


Simply put, the majority of us want to be desired. We want to be that person in our man’s life who he turns to when he wants love, when he wants comfort, when he wants happiness, when he wants stability, when he want to feel safe. Because we’re all separate individuals with our own individual experiences, thoughts, emotions, inhibitions etc, no two people will ever truly need the exact same components to commit to a successful relationship. The only true component necessary for a successful relationship is invested energy. 

Successful relationships are never solely based on love. Love, the noun, is an intense feeling of deep affection, and love, the verb, is to feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone or something. Both meanings, despite the general misconception, are critically subjective. Love is an emotion, emotions come and go. How much of us can really say we’ve consistently experienced the same emotion, unchanged, for extended periods of time? Sometimes we feel happy, sometimes we feel sad, sometimes we feel angry and sometimes we feel love. So if love comes and goes, our desire to be in a relationship with someone will similarly, always come and go. 


The law of energy is simple, energy cannot be created or destroyed, however, it can be transformed or transferred from one form to another, or in this instance, from one person to another. Hence the reason why successful relationships always come across as “easy” or “simple”. Just as in nature energy exists, so too in our relationships with our partners, our energy just exists. The “hard” part that people in long-term relationships always refer to only comes when we have to transform or transfer our energy in our relationship. As individuals, we are responsible for and should always be held accountable to where our energy is spent. We can either invest our energy in making our relationship work, or we can choose to be lazy and let our energy be drawn in all different directions where they don’t belong.


Relationships like Kevin and Dreka Gates work, despite the ups and downs, when both partners choose to invest their energy in each other. Men will always desire ride or die women like Dreka Gates, one of social media’s favorite rapper wives, because they are the ones who stay consistent in their efforts to support and invest time and energy into holdin’ it down.  

Love on the Brain | Valentine’s Day Ideas

Culture, Lifestyle, Relationships

Get ready for those relationship goals and matching outfits couples posts! Valentine’s Day is just around the corner! I know a lot of people pick on valentine’s day for being commercialized, unnecessary and pointless, but I have to admit, I’m a sucker for Valentine’s Day. Call me corny but there’s just something so exciting about sharing this day with that special someone. When he does find me, I’d want to celebrate that Nala and Simba type love that Elton John was singing about when he wrote  Can You Feel the Love Tonight


I know we should cherish our loved ones 365 days a year and be willing to prepare surprises just because it’s a Tuesday, but I’d adore the day a guy goes all out for me on Valentine’s Day. I’d be even more excited about planning v-day surprises for him. Although I have yet to  share in the experience of the celebration of this lovely day for couples, I have tons and tons of ideas for gifts, surprises and dates!

Slightly cheesy but totally worth it DIY Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas

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Top 3 Stay-at-Home Intimate Date Ideas

Charm your loved one with a Romantic Candle-Lit Dinner and express to them your interest and dedication through your effort, time and creativity. Why go out to a restaurant when you can set the mood in a more intimate setting at home? Think about it, at a restaurant you’d sit down, browse through the menu, order, chit chat while waiting, eat, pay then leave, but at home, you set the pace. No nosy customers or pushy waiters distracting the romance, just you and your significant other enjoying the passion of each others company.

A Daytime Outdoor Picnic is a rustic and special way to spend Valentine’s Day in your own backyard or it could be a great opportunity for a couple outing to your favorite park. This idea is probably not practical here in New York since it’s about 30°, but to all my readers who are enjoying warmer weather, why not share this v-day with that lovely someone having some fun in the sun. 

This Rose Petal Bath with Scented Candles is definitely not for the faint-hearted. Obviously this date is only for those who’s relationship is at that level, this may be a little too much for a couple who just started dating. However if you and your partner have explored and are comfortable with this level of intimacy, this special surprise for your loved one after a long day would really be a great opportunity to indulge in the sensuality of your connection. Make sure the mood is right having your favorite love songs whispering in the background paired with some good champagne or wine and some chocolates. And if you’re really feeling fancy, this would be an awesome surprise addition to a night out at a hotel.


I hate cliches, but on Valentine’s Day, its really the thought that counts, it could be just a card, a box of candies or even a single rose. Don’t be afraid to jump on this bandwagon! Celebrate your relationship, celebrate and show your gratitude and appreciation for your bond with your loved one on this so-called over-commercialized day for hallmark and love sick cornballs.

Love on the Brain | Love on the App?

Lifestyle, Relationships, Uncategorized


Dating apps? Has it really come to this? Am I that deep under my rock that I have to resort to swiping through virtual perceptions of people instead of interacting with real ones the way “normal” people do? I can’t help but feel alien on this thing. Obviously I shouldn’t because there are tons of profiles to scrutinize, yet I can’t shake that feeling of queerness. Is it realistic to think that I can find a serious relationship or are these apps just a quick easy way to find casual hook ups.


So there are options to describe what you’re looking for on the POF dating app;

  • hang out
  • long term
  • dating
  • friends

and then there’s another section describing your intent;

  • I’m looking for casual dating/No commitment
  • I want to date but nothing serious
  • I want a relationship
  • I’m putting in serious effort to find someone
  • I am serious and I want to find someone to marry

If I were to be honest I would say I’m in it for the long term because I am serious and I want to find someone to marry yet that seems so desperate and needy right? Am I overthinking this?


I ended up selecting long term/I want a relationship but I still felt like the guys who messaged me were just interested in a one night stand, if long term, they probably just wanted a friend with benefits. I would think that they’d read my profile before messaging me to assume the likeliness of compatibility, but the majority of them would always end up asking “So what are you looking for?” That question was the red flag for me, clearly I spent time filling out this profile for a reason!

While most of the guys did appear to be just f%#k boys, I did come across a few decent, well-mannered, respectable men. Although they could just be putting up a front, I am doing my best to try to be a little more optimistic.

I was quite nervous but I still decided I’d dip my toes in the lady pond, although I had never been in a relationship with a woman, I have often experienced those sweaty palm, tingly feelings that I’ve swept under the rug for years. When again would I find a better, less revealing opportunity to flirt and meet women? I did notice that the women I’ve come across aren’t as forward as the guys. For ratio’s sake, I’d probably gotten ten messages from men for every one message from a woman. I am so used to guys pursuing me that I can’t seem to find what to say when I want to spark a conversation with another woman. It was very strange.

Over the past couple weeks swiping through “my matches” have become less and less queer. I have grown to actually find fun in browsing through this online dating buffet. I like some, skip some, reject some, ignore some, respond to some, I even had to put some guys in check who didn’t seem to know their place. It’s only been a week, I haven’t found anyone to meet up with in person yet, but it might not be long. I have been flirting with a few people, and even if they don’t work out, there is still more potential out there, just a swipe away.

The Daily Post | Anticipate

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You’d think that long distance relationships have become much easier with all the advances in communication technology. Think about it, before the convenience of Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram or FaceTime, much of long distance romances depended on phone calls or emails and sometimes, it was only the simple hand written letter that kept love afloat. Much of the connections among millennials are being developed through double taps, likes, shares, retweets, follows and subscriptions.


Admit it, being part of the ‘look at me’ generation has made it quite easy for knowing someone to resemble knowing of someone. It’s true, you might be able to get the gist of a persons character, values and ideals based on the content of their page but that’s only if they’re actually willing to be open and genuine. When you meet someone for the first time, in getting to know each other, do you find yourself curious about their social media? Do you become curious about their posts, who their friends are and who the friends of their friends are? What pictures they posted 3 or 4 years ago? Do you get the urge to dig up all the dirt you can possibly find through their unequivocal, impulsive posts? Has social media tricked us into being inquisitive about a person instead of being interested in them?


We hardly ever leave room for anticipation anymore. We’d scroll through a person’s posts for a couple weeks and we’d think we know them. Instead, wouldn’t it be more nurturing to a genuine friendship if we’d take the time to learn about each other naturally? Maybe there is some correlation between the shortness of today’s relationships and the short span of time it takes to scroll through a persons life online. It’s the anticipation, the exciting beauty of suspense that holds our interest, which sets the perfect atmosphere for a relationship to flourish. Although social media may have alleviated a bit of the strain on long distance relationships, maybe social media is also the cause of the strain on long lasting relationships.


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